We can use the fourth chord, Do Your Best, to encourage us to aspire positively. But this agreement also recognizes that „our best“ varies from time to time, depending on our circumstances and our state of mind. The awareness of this fact leads to the realization that everything we do is our best moment, and this awareness can prevent us from having flags of ourselves if we are not up to an inappropriate level of perfection. #3. The antidote to hypotheses is to ask questions. Many of us were programmed in childhood against this madness, and this can be a difficult deal to change. Many of the assumptions we make about others are used against ourselves. Women are by nature relational! You`ll get it! They don`t want a series of intermittent short-term contracts, they want a definition. Questions like „Where`s it going?“ „Where are we in our relationship?“, „How do you feel?“ are really attempts to define the terms of the contract! I know, I SAIS, it looks like I have a little price, but I`m not. They really want to know the expectations and the good promises.
Guys, many times, don`t want a certain number of expectations to hang over their heads, so they`d rather have a gentleman`s agreement than a contract! I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the author of the book. That is why I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explains why he/she thought the four chords meant that people were behaving ruthlessly and selfishly, I might have received an answer. As it is, I support the idea that –Toltec or not — these principles are a healthy way of life and are in harmony with the good practices that are supported by modern psychology: in terms of badge, this word certainly has the connotation of perfectionism, and if you take it that way, you would go crazy. (Besides, the impeccability and other agreements you make with yourself, not the requirements that Ruiz imposes on you.) On the other hand, if you engage perfectly with your word as your goal, if you commit to be as honest and kind as possible with your words, without waiting for perfection of yourself or to fight if you are too short, this agreement could improve your well-being with yourself. We looked at four levels of convergence, going through relationships as they develop and develop. In a marketing sense, it is possible to do something normative about the motion relationship, that is, customers, through levels, but in personal relationships, the process is something more organic. The levels as we define them are: clearly articulated expectations, promises and well-understood consequences, these are the fundamental elements of a Level 3 agreement that involves contractual responsibility.